I am trying to write a policy that does not offend, yet is reasonable. The area that is particularly troubling is the repast for the "family", which at times can be as many as 200, or more people. I think I have covered the requirement for being in "good and regular standing", but the repast is a bug-a-boo for me. Please share your church policy with me so that I can adapt it for my church.

God Bless Barbara Ransom Cain Memorial A.M.E. Church, Bakersfield, CA.

-- Anonymous, June 25, 2004

Answers

I'm not sure we have a specific policy, but I do know that when the person is a member of an organization or organizations, they may be asked to contribute to the cost of the dinner. The request is usually for a monetary donation rather than food because there is a kitchen team that prepares or purchases all the food.

We provide meals primarily for members whose funerals are held at church. Typically, non-members do not have funerals at church; although it is not unheard of for a funeral to be at the church for someone whose family are members and the decedant is not.

Generally, I don't think a meal is served following services away from the church.

-- Anonymous, June 28, 2004