I’m nervous as i type My name is Sara. I am 37 years old female married for 7 years, with 2 children. My husband and i have grown apart and realize that we married for the wrong reasons. He would like to continue married, but i am starting to detest (hate) him. I met a man online over 2 year ago. We have been having an affair since then (I wasn’t going to have an affair if my husband was giving me love and attention). My husband has a female friend that he sends SMS and emails to, but he denies that there is anything else involved and it is purely Platonically, although at one stage their text got a little bit racy. Also my husband does have a history of making female friends, although i have never been sure of where they have led, or if he has been unfaithful to me, but i suspect he has. I am from America and my husband is Bahraini. I WANT TO GET OUT OF THIS MARRIAGE, not so i can marry the other man, but because i realize i can be happier without him. He keeps me well, but is constantly fighting with me and insulting me. Sometimes I think I will go out of my mind. What suggestions would you offer to find a smooth solution to this? I thank you for reading my problem.

-- Anonymous, July 15, 2003