I am 16 years old and my parents emotionally abuse me. My step-dad calls me names and curses at me. He tells me that I am worthless and stupid. I cry myself to sleep all the time. I am an extremely unhappy person. I have a boyfriend who I have been with for almost a year, we are happy together and he has always been there for me. He listens to me and tries to help. My parents have tried kicking me out of the house and telling me to never come back, but then they would call the police and tell the cops that I ran away (just to get me into trouble). And when the cops came to my house they put on a face and told the cops that I am a horrible kid and never do anything right. I am a good student and have never been in trouble with the law or anything of that matter. I want to get out of my house and away from my parents. I am only 16 years old. My parents have pretty much done everything they can do to me besides physical abuse. I want out!! Please help me. What can I do???

-- Anonymous, August 17, 2002

Answers

Please see your guidance counselor. 20 odd years ago I was physically and emotionally abused. I was also a good child...did my chores and was an honor student. My father forced me to quit school and join the military (he was kicking me out of the house). When I went to the front office to disenroll from school I was cornered by my school counselor. She could not believe that I was quitting school. After some pro quo, she got the whole truth and immediately called child protection services. Without her, I would have had a rough time in life...I am now an Engineer for a DOD contractor and am working on my Master's. The best revenge to my abusive parents is living well! PLEASE TALK TO YOUR SCHOOL COUNSELOR! THEY ARE REQUIRED, BY LAW, TO TAKE ACTION! GOOD LUCK AND BLESS AND PROTECT YOU!

-- Anonymous, September 06, 2002

hey there ,i read through your questionnaire there,the ony options you hav,right now ,is to talk about it with someone,and put up with it until you hav somewhere else to go,so get your life together first ,eductaion wise and go from there,its a long time ,but im on the same boat,i dont know what i will do either,in my case,i hav no one,i mean my step dad tells me he wants me out of the house everyday,my mom ,i dont talk to her,my real dad ,ive met him once,1 year ago,my sis ,dont talk to her either,so i feel where you are ! just hang in there,go talk to your doc,maybe thers a medication he can put you on,so hang in there ,email me sometime

-- Anonymous, January 29, 2003

hi i am 25 years old and when i was younger about 4 years old my step dad used to hit my mum and i was really scared and i really wanted to kill him as my mum was in a home when she was 9 and then he started to abuse me then it leaded to sexual abuse and i was so young i thought i was wrong and that it was right and then when i was 12 i realised something wasnt right and that my mum wasnt like the other mums she was really lazy and never tidyed up and she still doesnt and people in school say nasty things to me and it really upsets me and i know my real dad is in jail and that i cant do anything about the past and i lose my temper easily but i cant help it i feel like its all my fault but i love my mum for standing by me threw all this and sometimes i feel sad cause she never done anything at the time but i cant blame anyone but myself for not realising what was happening to me and i never told anyone but now my mum knows and i love her.

-- Anonymous, February 06, 2003

I am 14 years old and I think I am being emotionally abused. My parents don't let me do anything. They take away my priviliges as faster than I can talk. And my dad calls me names all the time. I have been a good student until lately. I cry myself to slep every night and the only thing that calms me down is music. Please help me and tell me what I can do.

-- Anonymous, February 21, 2003

hi, i am 14 years old and i feel like i am going to snap very soon. My parents used to say they loved me and felt sorry for their actions but they dont. I have told them i hated them and said i was going to run away to try and gain sympathy but they just tell me to go. One time i told them i was going to kill myself and i was seriouslt thinking about it and even then my mom looked at me strait in the eyes and told me to go ahead. I have a great girlfriend and i am popular with alot of friends. I cant even live a normal life at school anymore. They call all the time and tell me what to do and if i dont i will be punished. i am constantly grounded and i can never go anywhere. My mom tells me what to do to be off restiction and even if i do it she doesnt let me go anywhere. I have snapped one time in my life and i think if it happens again i could do something that might hurt me. i want to live a normal life. What can i do?

-- Anonymous, April 29, 2003

Hi, I am 15 years old. I know this may not sound very bad but it is to me. Every single day my mum is emotionally/psychologically abused by my dad. My mum has long talks with me about how dad threatens her with death and how he makes her feel stupid and worthless. I am constantly thiking about my poor mum. Dad has been recently threatening to burn down our house and kill my 2 cats. But I dont want to tell the police or anyone because I do love my dad and he is usually pretty nice to me. But not my mum. What should I do?

-- Anonymous, May 06, 2003

Well I dont know if you call this emotionally abused but I'm 12 yrs old and since I was about 10 yrs old my parents call me stupid, retarded, they say I suck, and they curse at me a lot. I cry a lot and feel lonly and sad, and feel like no one respects me. Some times I just want to die and be with the people I've lost in the years. I want to run away but I'm too scared, I wanted to commit suicide but I was too scared. No one listens to me. What should I do, I mean my parents arnt that bad, I love them a lot, its just thoughs times when they get really fusterated, I mean my parents have 5 kids and lots of responsibilities, dont blame my parents.

-- Anonymous, May 08, 2003

Why are kids who are 12 13 or 14 or 15 using the internet without supervision? If you are being abused, physical or emotional or sexual, see a therapist, talk to a teacher, talk to your doctor, or your Doc's. nurse. The way you are treated by your father will always affect you for the rest of your life. Poor relationships with him will make your dating life hell (when you are old enough). You will constantly search for that "normal" father figure with men you date to fill the void and that is unhealthy. Get help now, start a journal, don't make rash decisions, and don't ever ever let him get you down. I know it's hard, but you have to find a way to almost "ignore" him in a sense. If you are griping about being punished too much, take a step back and look at your actions. If the restrictions are truly unfair, ask your parents to compromise and come up with a discipline plan that will be fair for all. If your parents won't listen and compromise, than you gotta deal with the cards you were dealt and just make sure you finish high school and get your little butts to college and get an education so you can get the hell out- no strings attached. Good Luck.

-- Anonymous, May 18, 2003

Don't cry and don't feel sad, so what if they call you names or tell you you're useless? If you let every little insult bother you you are going to be very miserable for the rest of your life. Some people are just rude and you will encounter rude people throughout your entire life and you need to learn how to net take the things they say seriously. Look on the bright side, in a few years you will be out of the house and won't ever have to see your parents again if you don't want to.

-- Anonymous, May 27, 2003

I am 14 year old. My dad does not live with me, but continues to disrupt our family. He verbally abuses my mom. He yells at me on the phone...so loud that I can hold it an arms length away and still think its loud. He makes me feel guilty for blaming him for things that he's done. When I was little I was expected to be perfect. I remember being afraid to come home one day, because I messed up painting this assignment in Kindergarten. My dad has threatened and blackmailed my mom. I feel he doesnt love me and I am afraid of him. My inner-pain hurts so bad that at one point I was injuring myself to take the focous off the emotional pain. Is this emotional abuse?

-- Anonymous, July 10, 2003

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-- Anonymous, July 19, 2003

i have a step-dad and he trys to make my life inposible he told me to live so many times , he calls me names , my mom does the same thing i can't stay any more i really have to live this place , my mom told my that she is not my mom , i tried to run away before, and they stoped me , i can't stay with my family any more .my friends mom told my if i want to baby sit a little girl that stays in my bilding , and my mom first said yes and than changed her mind and told my that she won't let my baby sit htat girl because i'm really stupid and work is not for me . she is afraid that i will tell what she and my stepdad do to my .what can i do? do u know somebody that can help me?because i want ot kill myself and i will if somebody does not get me out of here!please if you can help give me an email

-- Anonymous, July 20, 2003

um.....I don't know if it is Verbal abuse either. I am 13 years old and one of my best friend's stepdad just got accused of milesting his 14 year old daughter and even before he used to call me fat and stuff but now it has gotten worse. And i think that might be why. I don't think he likes me very much because there are other people that my friend hangs out wit and they are a lot chubbier than I am...he doesnt call them anything. I have learned to ignore it but he realizes that I do and other people are doing the same....even my best friend all my other friends say i am not fat and i dont think i am that fat but i dont know if there is REALLY something wrong with what is going on. My friend's other friend was called fat when she was younger and now she is bulimic so that is kinda scary and I don't know if my friend is worth havin

-- Anonymous, July 27, 2003