My 32 year old fiance's ex girlfriend is highly abusive towards him. She has hit him in the face, the back, scratched him so deep with her nails that he has scars on his face, chest, and arms. She has even dug her nails into the skin in his ears and ripped that. She is extremely angry about him not wanting her in his life, and she has made that quite apparent. She has not only caused physical harm to him, she has shattered his windshield with her bare hands, indented the side of one of his doors, scratched his car trying to jump on it, and has caused damage to the inside of our home as well. She has kicked in the door, slammed her head against a steel door and left dents in it, kicked in a bedroom door, thrown many things inside the house, ect. The property we live on is a community property living area, and the owners of the property itself have pressed charges against her, but it hasn't stopped her. My fiance has also pressed charges against her for DV and her final court date is coming up at the end of January. She is doing all that she can to make things miserable in the mean time. I would like some suggestions on how we can get her to stay away until after the court date. Nothing seems to work anymore. She will show up at all hours of the night, banging on the door, and when we don't answer, she eventually leaves. We have been hiding our cars so that she thinks we aren't home ect. Has anyone else been through this before? Is there anything that we can do to make the situation easier?

Any suggestions would be appreciated.

MG

-- Anonymous, January 16, 2002

Answers

I would suggest getting a restraining order on her. That way, when she does show up, you simply call the police and she is automatically arrested.

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-- Anonymous, January 17, 2002