Hi, I want to know if there is help for my boyfriend, who is going through a divorce. I have scoured the net and called domestic violence organizations, and none have services for men. Here's the story. His wife was cheating, he found out and they had a argument, wife cut him with a knife, then wife called police. Husband opted not to press charges, wife did press charges, filed restraining order. He's working, paying child support, but then faced aggrevated assult charges due to the knife incident. They live in a small town. He sees her and kids in walmart, wife calls police says he's violated her restraining order. Bear in mind, he lives in a small town and his soon to be ex doesn't live there, but comes into town to harrasse him. Walmart is like their major shopping store. Also, he drives down road, she passes by, she calls police and says he tried to run her off road. That's how it's going for him. It doesn't look like it will get any better, and relocation is probably his best option. He's tapped out on money, and can't afford a lawyer for the divorce. By the way, wife moved out of family home and took all, including vehicles. Left him with just his clothes. It seems to me that she has broken the law. He was left with nothing and she won't even let him see his kids. In the future, he and his family and I are afraid of what this woman can do. If he looses his job because of this, he will fall behind on child support. Does anyone out there have any advice or recommendations for this man in dire need of advocacy?

-- Anonymous, January 14, 2002

Answers

Tammie you need to be careful. There is always 2 sides to every story and you need to be 100% certain that he is not contributing to the ex-wifes complaints, you need to be sure there is no substance to her claims. You need to do this so you don't get hurt as well. Once you are sure, you need to avoid contact with her and seek legal asistance. The family need to band together financially and emotionally and go through the courts. All contact should be made with witnesses that are impartial and have a reliable, reputable history that can't be thrown up in their faces. This is all temporary until everything is finalised. He needs to get a divorce and joint custody of the kids, or parental rights. Good luck.

-- Anonymous, March 21, 2002

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-- Anonymous, December 09, 2002