Hi my name is Stephy. When me and my husband get into fights I get so mad and hit him in the face and all over his body. I love my husband more than anything in this world and I donīt wanna lose him cause of my anger and temper. Please help me. Thank you for your time. What can I do to stop what I am doing to my husband???

Stephy N. Sheilds

-- Anonymous, July 31, 2001

Answers

Hi Stephy I am glad that want to stop what is happening. My advise (and it is only the way I see it after being abused like that) would be to play attention to your emotions when it starts to happen. If you can stop when you fell yourself getting ready to start to hit him just step away and call a time-out. then think about how you would feel if he were to slap and hit you. I know it will be hard to stop and it is easier to continue to fight. But it comes down to "Do you want him to respect you and your opinions?' and 'Do want to continue to respect yourself?' I know that this will not be popular with others, but I have a very hard time respecting some one that slaps and hits me to show that they are right.

-- Anonymous, August 01, 2001