Okay, so I have this problem, see? My friend doesn't think she can trust me anymore because I accidentally found her "secret" website and read it, and there was some stuff in there about me. I shouldn't have read it, but if you find something like that, curiousity sort of gets the better of you. Anyway, so now she doesn't trust me, but she really shouldn't NOT trust me because I really don't normally intrude on other people's things. But she doesn't believe that. So should I even bother trying to get her to trust me again, or just kind of leave it?

-- Anonymous, March 09, 2001

Answers

Sounds disgustingly familiar. Same thing happened to me once, where I accidentally came across something and then read it. I ended up telling the person about it because I felt bad and thought it would be better to be honest, blah blah. Sure as hell wasn't better, let me tell you. Anyway, even though I told them it was an accident, they still didn't believe me.

I think part of it boils down to whether the friend really knows you or not. Like, with me... this person apparently did not realize I'm the Queen of Denial. When it comes to certain things and certain people, part of me really just does not want to know. So why would I actively seek out things when I could possibly find something I wouldn't want to know? I wouldn't. But they didn't know that.

Anyway... they'll get over it eventually, so I wouldn't bother. Once somebody decides they can't trust you, there's really not a whole lot you can do.

-- Anonymous, March 09, 2001

I can hardly see how tyour friendhey can hold that against you when she published it on the internet. As soon as anyone puts something online they relinquish any right to complain when people read it. I suspect she's trying to push the blame on to you to avoid dealing with the things she wrote about you (I'm assuming these were insulting things.)

-- Anonymous, March 13, 2001

Well, if it's on the Internet and you found it (I don't know how, or how easily) then it can't be all that "secret." Personally, I generally follow the web journal rule that if I wouldn't want someone to know something I write, then I won't post it up there. Because nothing on the Internet is really private...you never know who might find it.

You also don't say what kind of "stuff" you found about yourself...I'm assuming it was negative or personal. In which case, your friend should be trying to get *your* trust back, not you hers.

Good luck!

-- Anonymous, March 24, 2001

Ok..what kind of friend would make a secret website and put stuff about you on it that you shouldn't see?

-- Anonymous, March 29, 2001