one of my groups of friends is composed of about 4-5 homosexuals and a lesbian (i'm the odd one out). all the gay guys like boobs. they have no qualms whatsoever with groping girls's boobs, even if they've just met, even if it involves lifting up/stretching down the chicks shirt. in front of everyone. yeah! it isn't just them; whenever we go to house parties (this doesn't happen at all in clubs, where there are lots of gay guys to keep my gay friends busy. as for my gay friends keeping one another busy--well, they are smart and don't overcomplicate things by fooling around with friends) and i'm making new gay friends-of-friends, said gay f-o-fs are seen groping frikkin breasts. UGH. this is so annoying. it's as if they think they have a license to do it just because it isn't sexual for them.

WHY??

ps. don't give me any of that generalization bull shit. it goes without saying that this is coming from personal experiences.

-- Anonymous, February 11, 2001

Answers

My friend [a girl] has a gay friend who likes to grope her boobs and hump her leg. It's odd.

-- Anonymous, February 11, 2001

I am mostly gay and I'm somewhat attracted to girls but my attraction to girls is pretty much caused by the fact that I *adore* breasts. I cannot get enough of them, I'm totally obsessed with them (when it comes to sexual things I'm obsessed with, anyway,) and they turn me on more than any other single thing.

That's uncool, though, for those guys to be groping anyone without permission, unless they have an understanding with them (when I was in high school everyone used to grope everyone and it was just a friendship thing because everyone was okay with it and I think it made us, as a group, more sexually free.) I wouldn't be *so* sure that it's a totally nonsexual thing for all of them, I know quite a few queer guys who are totally gay, except they like breasts (sexually, that is, rather than just as fun things to play with.)

In my experience, though, I haven't met any gay guys that go around groping people they aren't good friends with, so it seems to be a fairly unusual phenomenon mostly localised in your area or within this extended group of people.

-- Anonymous, February 12, 2001

i agree...it's unusual for gay guys, and quite inappropriate, to go around groping women. i've never been privy to this particular phenomenon, and here in seattle we have a lot of gay men, a couple of which i know. so it must be something within your particular "community" or "group".

-- Anonymous, February 13, 2001