Do you believe in true love? Like, that there is one person you're supposed to spend the rest of your life with, and when you meet them, you just know?

-- Anonymous, August 27, 2000

Answers

i don't, but if it happens i'll change my mind.

-- Anonymous, August 27, 2000

i don't really know, at the moment i don't think so, but things could always change in the future! :)

-- Anonymous, August 27, 2000

I don't believe in true love. At least not right now. Who knows in the future though. But I have to admit that I cry every time I see Never Been Kissed. It's such a great movie...

-- Anonymous, August 27, 2000

True love is 100% real. The whole "and when you meet them, you just know?" thing isn't necessarily a part of that, though, or at least it's not in my opinion. I do believe there's one person out there that you're meant to be with, but most people don't end up with their one person!

-- Anonymous, August 27, 2000

Definitely not, somewhat unfortunately. I'd *like* it to be true, but some sort of "supposed to" situation would imply all sorts of wacky divine forces that I definitely don't believe i

-- Anonymous, August 27, 2000

I absolutely don't. For many drawn out reasons, but mostly because love fails you, just all other earthly things can and will do.

-- Anonymous, August 27, 2000

What a bunch of pessimists (although I shouldn't really talk). I as well disagree that there's that "one person you're supposed to spend the rest of your life with". I mean, it just doesn't happen that simply, you know? Ok, maybe you meet a guy/girl and you're both great together and you love eachother and whatnot, but that's just a relationship. How the hell can you decide that down the road you're going to bed with that someone for the rest of your life? That just doesn't make sense.

-- Anonymous, August 28, 2000

Okay, this will sound corny, because I was NEVER a romantic, but I believe in it. I don't believe that there is just one person for everyone, but I figure there are maybe, I don't know, 10..it's just who you actually meet. Like I'll never meet someone I could totally fall for who lives in Japan because I've never been there! As far as the just knowing thing, it happened to me. One month after I started seeing this guy, I told him "you're going to marry me". A year later, he did! And I'm not one of those sappy people who plans my life with someone I'm dating. Never did the picking out childrens' names before either...and the true love thing happened to me! Go figure.

-- Anonymous, August 28, 2000

Yes.

-- Anonymous, August 28, 2000

Ok. I feel really embarrassed. My last post wasn't supposed to say: "How the hell can you decide that down the road you're going to bed with that someone for the rest of your life?"

Heh. Ugh. Change that shit to: "How the hell can you decide that down the road you're going to BE with that someone for the rest of your life?"

damn D's.

-- Anonymous, August 28, 2000

Yeah, I do, but I'm not too sure about the *one* person bit. The odds seem to whacked that way. But it could be possible. There could be one person who is looking for you as desperately as you are them, and maybe that would be the ultimate relationship of all time, and maybe you find them, and maybe you don't. But I do believe that you *know* when you meet someone if the relationship will be strictly friendship or more. You just *know* after a conversation or the first few words or a look that *something* is going to happen, and then you either freak or you go with it. I went with it, knowing from the beginning it would be more, and I was right. Yeah, I believe in true love, but only because I've just caught glimpse of it, and yes, I think you'll know when someone special steps into your life.

-- Anonymous, August 28, 2000

I indeed to believe in true love. Nuff said. :)

-- Anonymous, September 03, 2000

No, I don't believe in true love. I don't think that there is just one (or even more than one) person that you are meant to be with. I think that would have something to do with destiny and fate and that you would be destined to be with that person, and it's already written down in history (or future...whatever) that you will marry and spend the rest of your life with that person. it just doesn't happen that way.

I wish it did though, that way I would know that no matter what I would meet the man of my dreams no matter what I did and I could stop this endless search which only results in broken hearts and awkward dates with creepy guys. It would make life so much easier, wouldn't it?

-- Anonymous, September 05, 2000

True love is a nice concept to think about, to be sure. However, I'm quickly becoming convinced that such is a rather infeasible state to achieve.

People tend to discount the future, in the sense that the near-term is vastly more important for decision making than the long-term. Thus, people think they've found the right person for now and for perpetuity without realizing that people change as they get older. They may change for the better or worse, but few people manage to remain the same entity they were a few years or decades previously. For "true love" to work in that respect, both parties would have to change at both rates and in aspects that are either the same or in complementary ways to one another.

Further, I'm convinced that the idea of finding "the right someone" is questionable at best. There's just something statistically improbable about being able to find the optimal person for someone. I'll allow that it's statistically possible for an arbitrary person to find an optimal partner, but somehow I think the likelihood of that is virtually indistinguishible from randomness. Hell, even finding *someone*. even a remarkably suboptimal partner, is a prospect fraught with disaster for some people. (I can safely say this, not having had an actual date in approximately nine years of asking people out and getting rejected.)

I'm ranting again. Ack.

-- Anonymous, September 07, 2000

I do. I do because I have it. =)

I firmly believe that there is a pool of people who are 'Maybe One's. You can be happy with a Maybe, sure. But there's a 'The One' out there. If you don't find 'The One'? (which I think can happen at any age, 20 to 120) Then you can be happy with a 'Maybe One'. If your 'The One' dies? Still a pool of acceptable people with whom you can live and love.

I've met a LOT of 'Maybe One's but when I met my 'The One' I just knew it. I knew that I didn't want to be without him ever again.

Someone asked how you know who you'd want to be with in the future or something like that. Easy. If it's truly your 'The One', they'll change with you or at least support you in your journey in fulfilling your destiny. Not destiny in the usual sense, but personal destiny.

-- Anonymous, September 18, 2000

I do. But I don't necessarily believe that there is only ONE person you could be with.. But then again, who knows, I think alot of it has to do with how picky you are.

-- Anonymous, September 29, 2000

I believe in true love. I don't believe in the whole aspect of meeting them one time and just KNOWING. This may sound dumb but when I met the guy and am with now I didn't think that I could ever fall in love with him, or even like him. After being with him for like a month I knew. I just knew. I know he was meant for me. In the last 2 weeks we have been thru so much and he never falters (sp) he supports me emotionally, he holds me together when I am about to fall apart. He's just so much more than just a person in my life, he's keeps my world together for me. I know it sounds like I'm lusting but it's not, it's just true and I can't explain it.

-- Anonymous, October 17, 2000

I believe in it. And I believe I've found it.

After all the heartbreak, rejection, and pain that other "love" has brought ... What I have now is so real, pure, and true that I can't imagine ever being with anyone else.

-- Anonymous, March 11, 2001

I definately believe in true love......it's happened to me a LOT !!!

-- Anonymous, March 11, 2001