This was obviously a bad time for me to take this test. Here's what it said about me in relationships:

You need an ego boost! Most likely, your confidence level is pretty low when it comes to relationships. You tend to think that you are not good enough or not attractive enough, which is probably the message that you end up sending to others. Incorporating confidence into your attitude will not only increase your own feelings of self worth, but it will add to your mystique and attractiveness. Remember, you are often treated the same way you present yourself, so raise those expectations and enjoy some positive attention!

I did okay in the intellectual section, coming in somewhere in the middle, but I didn't do so well in the social section, either:

Come out, come out, wherever you are! You seem to be hiding from any situation in which you could be rejected or your self-esteem could be challenged. However, when you do this you are also avoiding encounters where you might deserve a pat on the back, and depriving your self-esteem of the occasion to receive a real boost. You should work on increasing your confidence level by revealing your great qualities to yourself and others.

Great, something else to be insecure about!

-- Anonymous, February 29, 2000

Answers

I scored middlin' in the Intellectual and Social parts (53/100 for each), lower on the Relationship side - 33/100, oddly tho they declared that not bad:

Congratulations -- when it comes to relationships, you have a healthy level of confidence. You are probably aware that you are a good catch and have a lot to offer to a romantic partner, but you are not cocky about your positive attributes. In fact, you have probably mastered that fine balance between confidence and arrogance that can increase your mystique and attractiveness.

I guarantee you if I'd taken this test a couple years ago, I'd have bombed the whole thing. And if I take it on a bad day a week from now, I would too. It's very much dependent on how you feel *right now*.

-- Anonymous, February 29, 2000

In terms of social and relationship inteactions, I am right on the bead, according to the test. I am, however, intellectually arrogant. Well, I knew that already.

-- Anonymous, February 29, 2000

I did better than I thought. Generally I know I can be (and deserve to be) arrogant about my intelligence and certain things I am really good at, but I have little social confidence for various reasons. I came out with a 40 on the relationship confidence, which seems about right but like the above poster, it said that was good. I got a 67 for the intelligence confidence and a 53 for the social, which were both good.

The problem I have with all of this shit is that when you get dumped or or whatever and you have ever reason to be feeling insecure, instead of helping you through it so often people just blame your insecurity for why you were dumped. Then that just gives you one more thing to be insecure about.

Oh well. I did talk to a girl on campus that I have some interest in, but I'm sure that she will turn out to be a lesbian, like every other woman I have been interested in for the past few years (that's what I get for hanging out with radical activists).

-- Anonymous, February 29, 2000

Total score: 53/100
Relationship: 47 out of 100
Intellectual: 67 out of 100
Social: 47 out of 100
I am a little surprised by the relationship/social scores, which I thought would be rather low. I am confident/secure in my intellect and abilities, probably because that was always the focus when I was younger. But I never really feel confident about friends and relationships.

-- Anonymous, February 29, 2000

I scored 60 out of 100 in all three areas. It said that I'm in a good place, try and maintain it. Hah!

I'm living with a guy that I'm leaving in a few weeks (got the place, waiting to move in). We've been together (and apart) for three years. We're being very mature about everything. It is so weird.

I think the reason I scored that well on the confidence test is because I KNOW that I'm doing the right thing in this situation. And believe me, I beat myself just about to death getting to this level of certainty. I've got all kinds of insecurity in other areas, but this is the right move for me.

http://www.unc.edu/~kirchner

-- Anonymous, February 29, 2000

relationship confidence - - 53 intellectual - - 73 social - - 67 ---------------------------------- anxiety - - 27 ---------------------------------- i've never been very good taking tests and i answered this one honestly. could it be the test is weighted to favor the individual ? any way it was fun, and it let me think a bit as i came to each question.

-- Anonymous, February 29, 2000

OverConfident: General=66 Relationship=67 Intellectual=73 Social=60 I wasn't surprised... I am the boss at work & think I probably can be a PIA sometimes. Knowing it is half the battle tho, right?

-- Anonymous, February 29, 2000

I did about what I'd expect.

relationships: I think I'm a catch and can be a bit naive about how appealing I really am.

intellect: self confident without being arrogant

social: confident yet modest - healthy

-- Anonymous, February 29, 2000

I'm just an all-around balanced girl, according to the test. Ha!

Relationship: 53 out of 100

Congratulations -- when it comes to relationships, you have a healthy level of confidence. You are probably aware that you are a good catch and have a lot to offer to a romantic partner, but you are not cocky about your positive attributes. In fact, you have probably mastered that fine balance between confidence and arrogance that can increase your mystique and attractiveness.

Um, ok, sure. After all, the guys are just beating down my door. (To get out. ba dum bum)

Intellectual: 60 out of 100

You realize that your intellect is an asset to your work environment, but you are also aware that you are just one piece of a very large puzzle. Your ego seems to be intact and your confidence seems to be resting in a very healthy place. You are able to be self- assured without arrogance, and your concern for both yourself and others will ultimately increase your value in the workplace.

I've always been a bit proud of my intelligence. Sometimes I think I'm maybe too proud, actually. I'm surprised the test came up with this.

Social: 40 out of 100

You are confident yet modest when it comes to social situations. You do not think you deserve gawking and admiration from all whom you encounter, but you do know how to take a compliment and appreciate flattering words. You are self-assured, yet humble, and feel good about yourself without having an arrogant attitude. You seem to be in a healthy place, so try your best to maintain it.

This makes me laugh. It's probably just an average of how I feel on different days. Some days I'm surprised that people aren't staring at me in awe and other days I'm sure they're staring because I'm such an unworthy freak.

But I like myself most of the time.

-- Anonymous, February 29, 2000

Beth, my test results were almost word-for-word the same as yours. Pretty okay on the intellectual part, terribly insecure socially, and way underconfident in relationships. Pretty much what I expected.

Smoke and Mirrors
-- Anonymous, February 29, 2000